Suicidal

[Jessica Adnee]

I was just wondering if anyone had any insight as to why people do this? This is one of the few many topics where I'm just clueless.

[XeroHedgehog]

Oh god...I really don't know what to say. I've had a person close to me die before, but she didn't take her own life, so I can't really sympathize...

I think the reason people commit suicide is because they have given up on fulfilling their life-long goals because they are always placed in situations where the goals they want to meet are always blocked by a dead end. They are so desperate to achieve something that they soon realize they can't, and can no longer accept it. They take their own lives because they truly believe it won't be better down the road.

If a person is so depressed that they have no-one to turn to, not even the friends and loved ones they already have, then that person could have been helped sooner...but the help was too far from reach. It's the denial of their own life success and the constant lack of sufficient help or the constant burden of depression that drives them to take their life.

I can't possibly put a finger on how depressing this kind of topic can be to talk about. I did have a friend who tried to commit suicide and wound up in a mental hospital, but I have never been able to truly realize how saddening this can be. I'm sorry if nothing I said helped, or if it sounded out of context, it's just that I've never actually had any issues with this before, so I don't know how else I can help you out.

[Charil]

Such a depressing thread...

A while ago, I wanted to kill myself. It's not that I was giving up my goals, or that I didn't have anything to live for. I did. And I still do. I wanted to die because I felt that I had screwed up not only the perception of myself, but myself in general. I put on an act to "fit in" so to speak with other girls my age, to be like they were because that's how I thought I was supposed to be, and when I finally came to terms with how I really am, I hated myself for it. Everybody saw and knew me as an angsty, pissed-off, gothy, feminist bitch and I hated myself for giving them that impression. I couldn't be closer to the opposite. I wanted to kill myself because I wanted to start over if reincarnation. Or even to just not be around anymore. That's my story. I know everyone's is different, but that's just one example of "why" someone would want to kill themselves.

And I'm really sorry about your friend I hope you feel better soon

[Chris Nagy]

Suicide is simply the response to being facing with more pain than you have the resources to cope with. When faced with overwhelming emotional pain (and sometimes physical pain) the option of simply ceasing to be looks like the best choice.

[hideko_dahlia]

My heartfelt condolences. *sends love and warmth*

Almost exactly a year ago a good friend of mine commited suicide. He had really thought it all out. He was a strong believer in the Christian faith, and said that he thought that it was better to be with God. It was a big surprise, because whenever I saw him... he was always so happy and full of life. My dad had been his confirmation mentor, so we were one of the first ones to find out about it after...

I always have to think for a long time to get anywhere on the topic of suicide. People do it for different reasons. Some people think that there's a better place for them in the afterlife; some people just hate the world and themselves; some people just don't know how to handle things... But hardly ever do they think of how sad the people they leave behind will be. It's a selfish escape from pain. It hurts a lot. The living have to carry on the burdens of the dead, because they no longer can carry them...

Okay, now I'm making myself really sad. I need to stop. ><;

[Chris Nagy]

But hardly ever do they think of how sad the people they leave behind will be.

Quoted for truth.

The few times I have seriously contemplated suicide, the one thing that always ripped me back from the edge of the abyss was imagining my own funeral. My parents, my brother, my aunt (who, being unable to have children of her own, raised my brother and I as a third parent; ) it made me sad enough to cry. If you can truthfully imagine how one person that loves you will feel and act at your own funeral, I'd imagine that is as good as any hotline.

[S.A.]

Er.. That seems a bit insensitive.

[greendaygoddess]

Yeah..my condolences to you and your freind's family and loved ones. And that does seem kinda insensitive

[Seishiro17]

well here in utah there's a nice little thing that was studied the topic of which was most popular ways to die.

1. car-accidents

2. suicide. and when asked about the cause investigators, profilers, and family members all agreed on one thing...BORDOM

I've seriously cotemplated doing it, hell I've even been so close I still have a scar to this day. but it wasn't the thought of a funeral that brought me back it wasn't the future anguish of family members. it was the words a close friend once said to me that did it. those words didn't even completly abolish it from my mind. more like put on hold, I still contemplate it every so often, heck we all contemplate it every so often its a natural process of the human mind, a primal instinct that is set into us all. but the one thing that can destroy that urge better than anything else is as cheezy as it sounds...love. wether it be love for a person, love of an object, or love of something untangible. it is in my belief something that tethers us to this world better than anything else.

[hideko_dahlia]

Calm down, guys. I know it's a touchy subject... I think Nikkita was just trying to lighten the mood. >.> Not the best way to go about it, but hey, we all are stupid sometimes.