Thoughts On Pre-marital Sex

[Xephon0930]

I know this is kind of weird coming from a guy who vehemently supports the gay community whilst doing a bit of bashing on certain groups of people within the so-called "opposing team" but I do live my life by some of the rules. The reason why I am not much into premarital sex is because I choose to be that kind of person as there are a lot of reasons for me to make this decision. The most obvious is safety because of things like STDs being taught to me during my sex-ed classes,I took a stance in not getting myself in the situation where I have a disease in a certain area of my body that will most likely never go away for good. Unexpected pregnancy is also an issue even though I am a guy. I don't want to get someone pregnant unless if 1,I was ready for that responsibility of raising a child and 2,if I was happily married to my future spouse(I am still a single man even after all these years). Having a child changes things and in some cases complicates things. Lifestyles change to support the child as the child needs his/her parents to get them ready for the real world and as such,your life will revolve around your little ones to an extent. You will still have some free time,just not as much. Another reason for my stance against pre-marital sex is more of a romantic's point of view as I am saving myself for the right time and the right girl and want everything to be or more realistically,close to perfect as possible in that aspect of a relationship. I am still looking for that other person and it ain't easy. It is a road that can be harsh to those who are unprepared and as such,anything with a chance to happen will most likely happen. I am not making this thread to force my views on ANYONE. I made this thread as a way to sort of vent out my frustrations in my romantic pursuits and to give maybe a little insight on why I chose this life style. I hope I haven't offended anyone whilst making this thread and sorry if I did.

[ProjectTrinity]

In short, since I have to go:

My God says "NO!"

I say: "LOLSorryDad!"

Because there's no symbolic awesomeness left with marriage in general. Not like some would like to make it out to be.

[Xephon0930]

In short, since I have to go:

My God says "NO!"

I say: "LOLSorryDad!"

Because there's no symbolic awesomeness left with marriage in general. Not like some would like to make it out to be.

Again,maybe it is just me being at least a bit hopeful in having a very fulfilling relationship as close and as sacred as I want it to be. But yes with the divorce rates ever on the rise,I can see why people are skeptical about things such as love. I had that kid of phase not too long ago and being frustrated about things like this is nothing to be ashamed of.

[silentcomposition]

While I wouldn't say till marriage.
I would say knowing the person for some amount of time is a good plan.


I'm a firm believer that people get divorced, because they start relationships out of loneliness, or fear of being alone, instead of common interests, goals, and hobbies.

[AmyAnn]

^ Or because the woman became pregnant [the case with my parents].

I honestly don't care about it. If you wanna then go ahead, it's human instinct to mate and have children or just...yeah, won't go into details. It's a person's own choice and I honestly don't see why it's such a big issue unless it's just random one night stands all the time. If you've known the person quite some time and are in a relationship with them then I say go for it.

[Xephon0930]

Again,I am a hopeless romantic who also have been rather hurt as well. I never really gotten close enough to a girl to get to that decision but whenever I even try to get to know the person,there's always some sort of barrier in which I once thought was my own fault. That is not so true now but I am a bit more careful in how I handle this kind of predicament.

[ProjectTrinity]

divorce rates ever on the rise,I can see why people are skeptical about things such as love.

Elaborate on skepticism and love and how that correlates with pre-marital sex vs. marriage. If you would~ =d

[Xephon0930]

Again,because I am such a hopeless romantic,I really love to stick to the idea that marriage at its finest is an ultimate culmination of love. That also means to me that if a love between 2 people is strong enough,it is worth the wait. I see getting in a physical aspect of a relationship too soon as just rushing something that shouldn't. I guess I still believe in marriage and how sacred it is or was depending on your viewpoint;but my point is,with these divorce rates I feel that maybe love has died or has been changed in a way in which romantics such as myself would not have wanted to.

[AmyAnn]

So you keep saying on every post.

Maybe it's just because I was raised this way, but having sex with someone to me is about as romantic as playing badminton with someone. It's a fun activity, it's exhausting, and it's customary to yell really mean things at your opponent (ie. "You son of a b*tch I hate you") and dispute them at every turn (ie. "What are you talking about, that was TOTALLY in!").

This...made me giggle. I won't lie.

[ChibiKohai]

Sex was designed to be within marriage. Bringing it outside that obscures it.
Going at it with a boyfriend or girlfriend will not only ruin it for your spouse, but for you as well. It establishes a connection between two people. It is sacred. Going all the way with a boyfriend or girlfriend before marriage is not even getting ready for marriage, which is what dating is supposed to be, but practicing divorce.
Consider this- if someone is married, having sex outside of their marriage is bad, right? Is it any different if you are to be married to someone and have sex with someone else? Outside of marriage, it creates heartbreak and physical pain. It was meant to be sacred. Now it is seen as just another part of being a boyfriend or girlfriend. It breaks my heart. I wear a purity ring specifically for my future husband and for my God. Yes, I believe in God and I am not afraid to say it. But even if I didn't, if I truly loved my future husband, I would save myself for him. It's not being a hopeless romantic- it's wanting a relationship the way it was meant to be. Don't depleate a romantic relationship or any aspect of it.
I have had friends who went all the way with their boyfriends, and they regret it. I love them dearly and stick there for them when it happens. I don't mean to degrade anyone who has done it before- it is never too late for a second chance.