Soulmates

[RYTEDR]

My answer is fairly dependent on the exact definition of the term 'soul-mate' that we are using.

If the definition is 'in the world, there is a person tailor-made for you in compatibility, that this is the case in ALL circumstances of ALL time.' then no. I believe in a world of 7 billion people, there are enough of us to have a fairly high probability that someone out there shares several desirable traits, but they could be virtually unknowable or speak another language with an entirely different culture. However, I do not think there is any reason to claim that there is someone out there for me, perfect for me, and I just have to find her.

Besides, perfection is dull. Just like any good piece of literature or entertainment medium, it requires at least some amount of conflict. If anyone here knew me personally, you'd know that I'm the kind of guy who despises random, pointless drama. However, if the person you're with isn't going to challenge you, then to me that's just as much of a flaw.

There's no reason to believe that everyone has someone who is meant for them. No reason to hang your luck on that, either. I'm not encouraging anyone to settle, but mindsets like this can really raise your standards to near-pompous levels if you truly believe in what it entails.

[Xephon0930]

I don't know guy with the Dr. Manhattan avatar,I'm just at the point where I question why do I raise any expectations and get invested into a person where a relationship could be involved. It's not like that I'm so much as not trying as it is me being way too damned nervous and inexperienced in these manners. I just wished that I was the kind of guy who puts up all these barriers around myself and ENJOY being there. The truth is,I really don't. I can't say that I really believe in a thing called love and most likely don't know whatever the flying fuck it is. This isn't made easier by so much crap masquerading as such and that I have yet to see anything substantial to the contrary. And all this is acting up on Valentine's Day no less. I guess I'm too damned jaded to even comprehend the concept.

Oh well,I guess it is better to be forever alone than to suffer a rejection or a bad break up.

[RYTEDR]

I don't know guy with the Dr. Manhattan avatar,I'm just at the point where I question why do I raise any expectations and get invested into a person where a relationship could be involved. It's not like that I'm so much as not trying as it is me being way too damned nervous and inexperienced in these manners. I just wished that I was the kind of guy who puts up all these barriers around myself and ENJOY being there. The truth is,I really don't. I can't say that I really believe in a thing called love and most likely don't know whatever the flying fuck it is. This isn't made easier by so much crap masquerading as such and that I have yet to see anything substantial to the contrary. And all this is acting up on Valentine's Day no less. I guess I'm too damned jaded to even comprehend the concept.

Oh well,I guess it is better to be forever alone than to suffer a rejection or a bad break up.

See, the issue that you have, sir, is that if you present yourself this way to people in your life, you may be chasing away the beautiful opportunities that could arise. I have seen you post on several occasions, and the majority of them are focused on your insecurities and self-loathing and apparent fear of isolation.

These traits are rarely attractive to other people. In fact, these traits tend to chase away everyone aside from the users and abusers who feed off of people such as yourself, so what you end up with is a cycle of being used or burned and falsely equating that to 'the way it just is'. This is false and there is honestly much more beauty and complexity to the world than that.

This is coming from a man who is still reeling from being left and cheated on for months by my first and only love thus far. We were engaged and together for 6 years and still it all crumbled before I knew what was happening. Does this lead me to believe that love is a dramatized piece of language with no internal meaning or significance? For awhile, in my bitterness, I did. However, I moved passed that and I realized that while the conclusion to the relationship was not ideal, the experiences that were gained from it were real and wholesome.

Let me tell you something about if love is real. I was in love. I still am in love, and I know what it feels like to actually be in love. It's really quite simple. I am not some enigma or anomaly of the human condition. People like me exist by the millions and they love like I do, millions of them. Your cynicism is doing you no favors, and in our mere 80 years of existence on this planet, we should do what we can to find the happiness that we deserve, even if that means just being comfortable with ourselves.

I'm almost a year into singlehood and I'm just now starting to truly see the benefits that come from standing on my own two feet again. Relationship, no relationship, there are pitfalls and and consequences--in addition to benefits--of all these things. Being alone does not have to be a bad thing.

To mention something that pertains more to the actual topic at hand, there is a fair amount of likelihood that there are people who would find you--yes, you--attractive and compelling and maybe even worthy to love. The problem is that you seem, based on what I've seen from you, completely encased in self-hatred and bitterness that it's going to hold you back and, at worst, show through your interactions with those people. There is a ton of shit out there, from bad to horrible, and you will get stuck in a lot of it. However, FOCUSING on that aspect is going to blind you to the good in it, as well. Since I've been single, I've learned a lot about myself and made a complete life-change. I am trying to become a voice-actor which I know I enjoy so much more than being a chef, which was my past aspiration when I was in a relationship.

I see your posts often, and I know how it feels. However, if you let it consume you, it will be unlikely to get better, because misery begets misery begets misery.

[Commander Sylux]

Eh? Well yeah, I think my bro Jaidurn is my soulmate. Not gonna marry the guy, though, I'm only gay for Johan Liebert. I've met tons of chicks that were pretty much just right, but they were all significantly older than me. Nowadays I just wanna focus on my work and getting a video game demo out before I get into San Jose.

[Xephon0930]

Although things have gone a bit better since I last posted,I'm still reeling over on some crushes of mine and being the stubborn ass that I am,it is rather hard if not next to impossible for me to let go. This is especially true when I have nobody else to move on to. Sometimes I wonder how long will this cycle continue till it is finally broken and buried.

[JVSP_The Real One]

I think that you have to get to know someone first and search out both your feelings eventually and see if there is chemistry and how much you love one another. If you wake up and can't get that person out of your mind and they feel the same way about you and you have an almost spiritual connection then that is when you both become soulmates and realize what true love is. THE END

[Xephon0930]

I think that you have to get to know someone first and search out both your feelings eventually and see if there is chemistry and how much you love one another. If you wake up and can't get that person out of your mind and they feel the same way about you and you have an almost spiritual connection then that is when you both become soulmates and realize what true love is. THE END

Yeah,well the problem with that is that I have yet to find someone who returns those feeling as far as I know. And I can't help but feel like I'm constantly getting the short end of the stick. My current status in this regard has become that of jaded cynicism and utter disbelief mainly cause I have tried and tried again(moreso in my years in Middle and Highschool)and all these utter rejections have left me a broken individual. I stopped believing that I was worth anything to anyone the more and more I got rejected,ignored and utterly ridiculed. It's times like these when I am most vulnerable,I think my chances at finding someone is getting slimmer and slimmer as I get older and nothing improves or changes. And that's not including the blind dates my friends have tried setting me up that have been either very awkward or rendered null and void because they forgot to ask if they were available.

[Minx]

I believe in soulmates. ^^

[ShokatsuryouKomei]

Yes... but only because it makes sense probability wise since there are so many people out there.
It also makes me happier to believe in soulmates though >w<
[insert Single Ladies dance x_x]
But maybe not so much a 'teapot lid though' as something that works in its place...?

[Kurui]

Yes I do, but mine died.