Soul-mates: Are they out there?

[crystal]

Okay, this is just some random poll to see just how many people believe in fate on this board.

Being a fairly practical person, and having experimented with dating and all, I think that there are many people you meet who you can be compatible with- just some more so than others. Also, where you are in life determines who you're going to end up with, or "you fall for whoever you know at the time." It would be nice to think that there's someone "special" out there, but I'm a bit skeptical. So, what do you guys think? Do you believe that we make our own lives, or that we're destined to end up with a particular person? Voice your opinion! ~ Crystal

[Merr]

For me, it's a little bit of both.

There may be one person who's most compatible with you, but by the very nature of being compatible, you're bound to meet. It's not as if your "soulmate" is lost wandering around on the other side of the country because you made a bad decision or missed a chance. By making a decision, you're changing who is most compatible with you. There are lots of people out there who go well together, but the ultimately the one you're with at any given moment is your "soulmate" or whatever. It's not divine law that you can never struggle against, because by struggling, you're changing who your soulmate is y'know?

I guess that doesn't make much sense...

Just look at this way, "whatever happens...happens."

[Matt Alan]

I always thought your soulmate was determined after you made the vows at the alter. I'm a firm believer in "To cherish and hold, to honor, for richer or poorer, for as long as we shall live, til death do us part", and all that.

I believe I've found my partner in life, her name is Annie.

[SeiyruRenaih]

Deiji and I are appearantly getting married when I'm 40.

[TamTu]

I like the concept of soul-mates and think coincidences that brought two people together might just be more than just a coincidence.



Though I believe fate brought me and Nikki together >D

[Cefaclor]

Deiji and I are appearantly getting married when I'm 40.

Oh my. And then all hell will break loose. And we wonder why.

About soul mates. No, actually I dont believe in that :D. But then that depends on how you define soul mate. Is a soul mate, someone who will understand and be there for you every second of every day? Coz that dont make any sense. Everyone feels lonely sometimes. And thats as far as Im going XD

[Cordelia LeFay]

I'm not sure if I believe in soulmates. I mean, I'm not going to be in contact with the majority of males in this world.

So, I would imagine if you did find your "soulmate," either the Powers that Be made it happen or that's as good as its gonna get in this lifetime (which is as good as a soulmate?).

Of course, I'd like to think I've at least met them before, in another life, so although they may not necessarily be my "soulmate," it is someone who is extremely important in all my lives.

But anyways, despite all that, I do adore the idea and abolutely love the Greek myth about your "other half."

[McCorvic Sucks]

Out of the 8 billionish people on earth the odds are that there has to be at least ONE person with whom you can get along with.

And if there isn't, well, then there is obviously something horribly wrong with you.

[Jing]

Out of the 8 billionish people on earth the odds are that there has to be at least ONE person with whom you can get along with.

And if there isn't, well, then there is obviously something horribly wrong with you.

I can barely get along with anyone... I need a soulmate. Somebody help me out here... XD

[Tony]

To think that there's only one person out there for any one of us... well, that's just incredibly depressing. I mean, when actually in the throes of love, it is very reassuring to say that the love was destined (implying that neither person wants or needs anyone else), but anyone who has had their heart broken by their "soulmate" would definitely disagree with the notion. I view it like I would view most interpersonal relationships. There are differing degrees of romantic compatibility, just as there are different levels of friendship. Some may be relationships of convenience, whereas others may resonate at a deeper level. Regardless of the type, relationships need to be built. Instead of looking for a perfect fit, I would think it good advice to look for simply a good fit, and work from there. There will always be conflict in interpersonal relationships. That's one of the things that makes us human. Our ability to resolve that conflict strengthens the relationships we have. That's why we're loyal (hopefully) to our friends and significant others. There may be better fits out there for our personalities, but we tend to want to keep our friends and lovers, flaws and all. That shared experience and shared personal growth is what really cements the bonds between people. Compatibility gets us together, but shared history keeps us there.

[La Sailor Luna]

Inuyashafan is right there has to be at least one persone out there that you can get along with and share eternity together with or until one of you dies a painful horrible death. Excuse me for one moment............

Sorry, had to take me daily dose of weed- I mean pills, pills, pills, where are those pills *looks around frantically* MUHAHAHAHAAAAA!!! :twisted:

Ooppsss...... Umm, yeah life.....great huh? Oh yeah about the soul mate thing, yeah I believe in it, of course, I love that stuff. Besides the fact that I'm 15 ya know. *Backs away slowly, then runs*

[Tom]

I think the concept of a "soul mate" is great in a non-literal sense. I do not believe that there is some pre-destined relationship for everyone, just waiting for fate to realize them. I do, however, believe that there are people out there for (mostly) everyone. In that sense, conversationally, any reasonably compatible person for you could be called your soul mate.

But the truth is that the big factor in creating great relationships is nothing more than circumstance.

[Sadsiren]

What is funny is I remember a moment in, of all things, the Sister Act 2 movie, where one of the girl students realizes she has a lot in common with one of the elder nuns, and it's suggested that they are soul mates. I found this an interesting observation, because that was the first time I'd heard it meant in a non-romantic sense. But I find this to actually be an acceptable definition for it, because truly, we can have a lot in common with a person, regardless of gender, that draws us to each other.

I think the concept of soul mates isn't that there is one single person destined to be with you. It's a way of defining a friendship or relationship where the two people are so in tune with each other that it's uncanny. And I think this can happen with more than one person in life. So in that regard, I do think they exist, and there is potential for you to meet someone who fits that.

As for there being a partner destined to be with us in general, I cannot say for certain if such things are possible. In a world with so many people, we do find our hearts falling for more than one in our lifetime, feeling for more than one. Truly, it's one of our journeys in life, trying to discover who is right for us, if anyone. And finding the one to have and to hold, till death do your part....it really is a matter of serendipity.

[Margo]

I think that there is someone out there for everyone. But they won't just come to you. You have to look for them. Or something of the sort >>;;

[teggy16]

I believe that there is some invisible force that ties people together, mostly when they've gotten to know each other. But then, there are times when people fall in love or think they've fallen in love with someone they've only exchanged a word or two with. That happened with me a day or two ago. If you check the Comic-con thread a bit later, and look at my icon, it's a bit obvious who I like now. I only exchanged a few words with Greg Cipes, but from the moment I saw him, he seemed perfect. But I believe he already has a girlfriend, and I'm still jailbait, so my feelings don't matter. I'm probably just obsessing over the autograph. >_<

[Runai]

I find oriculum's words to have really struck several notes with me. I can definately relate to your closing words in particular, "shared history keeps us there", and not just for the sake of 'convenience' or obligation.

In light of what Sadsiren added, I've known one guy I consider a soul mate of sorts since the age of about 3, when our families met in Singapore. We've pretty much always considered our relationship a brotherhood, and as long as cereal, ninjas, martial arts and anime exist, the bond will never come close to being broken!

I really don't know about a more romantic situation. After having been certain that I could remain with one fantastic girl for the rest of my life, that was - as one may be able to guess - cut short. But that was 3-4 years ago, and now at the age of 19 I still feel too young to make that kind of judgement again. I agree with other views on here, that it's best to find someone with whom you can get along and laugh on a day-to-day basis, and then see if things are to rise to a more 'spiritual' level much later on.

[Henageshi]

I'd lke to believe that there are soulmates for people. However, sometimes I believe in both theories. Because what about those people who marry, their loved one dies and then they remarry to someone else..? It kind of goes either way I believe.

I think fate brought me and my b/f together no doubt. Let's just see how long it stays there. XP

[Lila]

I never really thought much on soulmates, I wonder if it's possible to have a non-romantic soulmate?

[Hawkeye_GGK]

I vehemently believe that everyone in the world has a soul mate. However, I don't want everyone to think that I believe that everyone is destined to have a romantic interest in their life.

Soul mates to me are simply people whom you have an unexplainable and unequivocable bond with. This could be either your best friend or your future romantic interest. This person probably shares a life energy with you on some level and vice versa, meaning that you two are for more connected than you could be with so many others.

I would also like to rule out that you only have one soul mate. There are people out there whom you just instantly understand without words, and these are the people you share that special and precious bond with.

But, that's the ramblings of an existentialist.

[Cordelia LeFay]

I think the concept of a "soul mate" is great in a non-literal sense. I do not believe that there is some pre-destined relationship for everyone, just waiting for fate to realize them. I do, however, believe that there are people out there for (mostly) everyone. In that sense, conversationally, any reasonably compatible person for you could be called your soul mate.
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I really like that idea!

[Nikki Wright]

I believe in the idea that there is a soul-mate out there for everyone, yes.

[Chris Nagy]

I believe that there are a number of people that you can be very happy with, and amongst those there is perhaps one who is above all of the rest. If that makes said person the soulmate, then yes, I believe in them.

[Saren]

Soulmates? Pshhh. Try sealmates.

http://www.eurekalert.org/multimedia/web/127_web.jpg

sealmates > soulmates

[Jessica Adnee]

Personally, I don't believe in fate. I find it to be a stupid ideal that people keep around merely so that they have something to make themselves feel more secure and have something to blame when things go wrong. Of course, that's only my opinion!

However, I do believe in "soul mates". But I think of it in the sense that only two people (gender doesn't matter) that can stand each other for eternity. Of course, it's hard to find that soul and mentality in others so good luck searching!

^^

[tofu]

Ooh!! So THIS is the part where I come in and say "Who cares, I'm going to die a senile old evil maid but have tons of fun destroying the LOVE in this world before I expire. And NO ONE, I repeat NO ONE can stop me."

Okay. Maybe Sailormoon. But that's a HUGE maybe.

I believe that there are non-lover soulmates. Like really good friends kind of. And I also do believe that there are many different types of soulmates, and you can have many of them, it's just the right timing or place, or whatever. Soulmates doesn't necessarily have to be your gf, bf, husband, wives (although I think it would be a good thing for them to be). Yes. Right. Now my mind is blank...

[Cheshire]

I agree with what Sadsiren and a few others have said, about soul-mates not being specifically romantic. I have one friend, and we're both just so in tune with each other, it's kind of eerie. There's not really a way to describe it.

As for soul-mates in a romantic sense...While I do like the idea of there being a 'special someone' for everyone, I'm not entirely sire I beleive it.

Plus, with my luck, I'll end up being the single, crazy old lady with far too many cats.

[Acelister]

I belive you have a soul mate. Someone you get along with no matter what. Doesn't matter about gender, age, race or anything, you will know them.

I know my soul mate. We never argue, enjoy the same things,are always there for each other... And she's not my girlfriend. Try as I might, I cannot see my girlfriend the same way I see this other person. But I don't love my soul mate the same way I love my girlfriend. It all sounds confusing, but I know what I mean...

[Rasha]

However, I do believe in "soul mates". But I think of it in the sense that only two people (gender doesn't matter) that can stand each other for eternity.

Amen, Pixie! That's exactly (part of) my opinion! I think of a soulmate as a little bit of both - like, somehow "fate" or "coincidence" or whatever you want to call it brought two people together at some point in time. After that, I think someone can become your soulmate - someone you love and cherish and "can stand for eternity". Two people who truly enjoy each others company and love being in their presence. . .even when times are less than perfect. As you learn and grow and bond with this person, it becomes clear that they are your soulmate and you feel yourself wanting to share your life with them. I guess I consider soulmate more like "true love". Is there someone out there that has the words "(Insert your name here) Soulmate" stamped to their forehead? No, I don't think so. . .but I think you meet someone who can become your soulmate through destiny.


Btw - those seals are cute.

[NG]

I think it depends on the person...I really don't think that for everyone there is a perfect certain someone, however, I can't deny I've seen some people who just seemed like they were just too perfect together and it seemed like they belonged together. ^ ^

[Elina]

I think that romantically, your soul mate is probably someone you were in love with in a past life, and that it takes a while to recognize them in this life, because we're not supposed to know anything about who our past lives were... yeah, this sounds really confusing, because I'm really out of it. (Stupid iron-deficiency anemia symptoms.)

What I'm trying to say is that love can last through reincarnations if it's strong enough... that's a bit closer, I guess.

[Margo]

I think that romantically, your soul mate is probably someone you were in love with in a past life, and that it takes a while to recognize them in this life, because we're not supposed to know anything about who our past lives were... yeah, this sounds really confusing, because I'm really out of it. (Stupid iron-deficiency anemia symptoms.)

What I'm trying to say is that love can last through reincarnations if it's strong enough... that's a bit closer, I guess.


That would be cool O_O

[Deiji]

I think that romantically, your soul mate is probably someone you were in love with in a past life, and that it takes a while to recognize them in this life, because we're not supposed to know anything about who our past lives were... yeah, this sounds really confusing, because I'm really out of it. (Stupid iron-deficiency anemia symptoms.)

What I'm trying to say is that love can last through reincarnations if it's strong enough... that's a bit closer, I guess.
I totally agree!! xD
I do believe in soul-mates and i think i may have found mine ^^ Despite the fact that he lives 7,000 miles away ._. I need to get a greencard! xD

[Gabi Star]

A soul mate is just someone you click with on a very deep, personal level. And you may click with more than one person this way. I think there are multiple "soul mates" for each person.

[Pombar]

Yeah, I'd pretty much agree. I don't believe they're predestined or whatnot, but I do think that certain people just click. Though then again, people can be "soul mates" when they'd been friends for years beforehand. I guess the clicking takes longer sometimes is all.

[Kakumei]

I'm still up in the air about whether or not I believe in soul mates or not. I would say a resounding "YES!" but it could just be coincidence, lol. If it is just coincidence...then me and my current beau have had more coincidences than I've had in my whole life...

[Lucien]

Jonathan Cook voice-over; "Soul-Mates... Do they really exist? Some have sworn that they have come into contact with them, but the evidence remains shrowded in mystery. Tonight.. we will explore the facts...the fiction... and -everything- in between. THIS...is Soul-Sightings. With your host Jonathan Frankes."

[Klaymen1]

http://h1.ripway.com/klaymen1/soulsightings.mp3

:D

[Chris Nagy]

An update on the soulmate ideology. After my ex-fiance and I went our seperate ways, I was pretty much crushed and felt as if I'd never love anyone again. Then I figured that you could love a great number of people, though not at the same time. That was when I posted my last post in this thread.

Now, it is a half a year or more later, and I have to stand by what I posted. There are alot of people out that that you can be very happy with, possibly for the rest of your life. I don't know if I believe that there is one specific person amongst those with whom you would be more happy than the rest, now. I have a new significant other, and the connection is completely different, to the point where it cannot be compared to my last relationship. I suppose I am just the kind of guy who doesn't try to one-up what he has, when what he has is what he wants. I guess I am saying that there are plenty of people you can find that soul resonance with, and the one you end up with until the end is probably the one you will consider your true soulmate.

[Kirran]

I'm closer to believing in it than I ever have been, but I agree with Kakumei, I'm still a little up in the air. It wouldn't suprize me to find out that we all have soulmates, let me put it that way.

[Gabi Star]

polyamory works. become one.


(kidding)

[Chris Nagy]

Even though it was a joke, I'll address it seriously, and the join in the chuckles.

Depending on your definition of the word, I am polyamorous. While I do not engage in multiple sexual relationships (as to that would entail cheating,) I still love all of my past loves. I still love my ex-fiance, and the one woman I fell in love with before her. The love I feel for either of them would not lead me to abandon or cheat on my current significant other, even though I do not yet love her. I see very clearly, however, that I could and will love her, if things continue as they are. At that point, I shall have 3 loves in my life. Two loves too many, some would say, but I know where the lines are and how to keep from crossing them. We are rarely afforded the "One Life, One Love" scenario, and finding out that one is not the only true love of one's beloved can be a shock, but it cannot be helped.

All seriousness aside now, polyamory is cool. Orgynation.

[salies tara]

Maybe the idea of a soul mate is just a clever way for mankind to keep moving forward in life. Humans, as much as some would like to disagree, need to be with a person(s). No one with breath in their lungs can truely say they wish to be alone, because the fact of living alone is pretty much death.

I guess if people thought of the diffuculty of finding someone that could understand you enough to love you through the good as well as bad being nearly impossible they might just give up before they try.

So, if you think that their is a soulmate for you it sorta makes the reality of a possible life alone less realistic. This way you can go on day by day currently alone without to much depression cause you belive in your heart that your soul mate is out there waiting for you.

That's what I belive. "he" is out there waiting for me.

[chronocrossed]

I'm beginning to doubt it, seriously. My love life is practically non-existant. I keep meeting women who are nice and everything and we seem to connect, yet they have boyfriends. I must be cursed or something. I have yet to meet a woman that is single who connects with me, and I am practically the most open-minded (read: not shallow) guy you can meet when it comes to dating women.

So IF there is a soulmate out there for everyone, I must have been left out of the "pairing ceremony" when the universe was created. I would be willing right now to believe like others have said that it's all just a concept that we created to make everyone think they actually have someone out there for them. When in fact, there are bound to be people (like me) who may be doomed to be alone (not dating/married) for the rest of their lives. But don't feel bad for me...it's okay, I had Subway. :)

[Cefaclor]

kay Im not entirely sure if this is relevant but Im puttin it in anyway: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/library/01/6/l_016_08.html

woah. I dont know if I could smell my soul mate, but apparently science says yes XD.